Top 10 struggles as a single

Part I
Here’s the thing although it’s hard for some to admit it, single people deal with these issues; maybe not everything on the list but at least one. See if you can identify with any. I pray this helps all who read it.

1.       Lust
2.       Loneliness
3.       Regret
4.       Forgiveness
5.       Loving myself

This year I went to the Pinky Promise: Heart to Heart Conference, organized by Heather Lindsey and her husband Cornelius Lindsey, and she said something small yet powerful. She said, she watched Cornelius serve for 3 years not looking at anyone just concerned with serving. And I had to reflect on my heart, how I seemed to “notice” every good looking brother who said they loved God. I didn’t realize my heart was contaminated; yes I was serving but that wasn’t my only concern. I wanted to be in the right place at the right time. I can be honest because God revealed this to me and I believe others can relate. I had a real lust issue. God didn’t reveal this to me just so I could stop staring at every good looking man, but to show me when He brings my husband my eyes will still wander if I don’t allow Him to do this work in me. I was making idols in my heart and believed that God was confirming my foolishness. (Exodus 37:14, 1 Corinthians 10:14). If God were to give me His son when my heart was in that condition as great as that man would be, I’d be lusting for what looked to be better. In the past when I felt lonely I would call someone to entertain me, men who I knew I wanted nothing to do with. I would entertain men who had already proved they were all wrong for me! Being lonely can lead to “situations” if you aren’t wise, trust me I know. (Psalm 25:16, 1 Peter 5:7, 1 Corinthians 10:13). Regret would come in and I would beat myself down for making bad decisions, forgetting all Christ had done on the cross. The thing with regret is you find yourself sooooooo busy replaying what you did instead of learning from what led you to do what you did and how to not allow it to happen again. For example, if you know when you're bored you text someone you don't want to be with to come "chill," FIND SOMETHING ELSE TO DO. Trust me I know! (Psalm 147:3, Philippians 3:13, 2 Corinthians 7:10). Regret is not of God, God doesn’t want us to hold on & beat ourselves down with our past decisions. Wisdom to make better decisions will only come by spending time with God and in God’s Word.
Forgiveness means not punishing a person for their human flaws, because we all mess up. I try to remind myself that forgiving people is not for them but for me. Sometimes we think we have forgiven someone until the Holy Spirit shows us exactly what is in our heart. It can be the slightest thing, like a Facebook status to show us we have some residue in our heart. Take it to God as long as you need to until your heart is right. (Matthew 5:23-24). Loving myself,  check out that full blog. Before Christ you don’t know your worth or who you are. We pretty much accept the world’s definition of who we are. We accept labels like she’s mean, has a bad attitude, a b… yes I know a few who claimed to be a bad b…. guilty as charged LORD THANK YOUJ. Get in the habit of asking God what He says about you! Ask God to help you love who He made you. I’m not saying be arrogant I’m just saying learn to appreciate you. (Proverbs 19:8, Proverbs 18:12).

. Hope you found Part I helpful.
Stay Blessed!