I decided to share a few things I have personally been learning + experiencing in hopes that it’ll help + bless you all! Since the title resonates with different avenues of my life I’ve created short pieces within this single blog post. This was done to convey the message in one convenient forum. Let us begin.
A few weeks ago I heard within my spirit “slow down!” We’ve been told that before, right? This slow down was different though.
This was pertaining to relationships (men specifically) and yes I am currently still single; but this ‘slow down’ within was telling me how much in the past I have rushed to figure out which label fits best. What do I mean? If ever a guy came into my life I wanted to immediately know the why & what for! There is nothing wrong with wanting to know someone’s intentions concerning you but for me it was different. Even if you don’t think you rush, read on. My main focus was what are you looking for, what do you want with me and so forth! A bit aggressive?! As I thought about it, I realized that the time between the initial encounter and the timing of labeling us as a couple was very short. I’m in no way saying something should be dragged out, especially if there is romantic chemistry. I am however saying some getting to know, without the labels of any relationship, should be done. Whether it’s a label of friends, boyfriend etc, two people should take time getting to know one another. I can admit that my rushing in the past has resulted in some pretty bad situations and or resulted in me getting annoyed at the snail pace & moving on. In my previous defense I didn’t want to waste time, but can you imagine rushing things to happen. Have you ever heard of the saying: “right person wrong timing,” well the timing is just as important as who's and what’s! So if like me, this applies to you in any form, slow down! Go to GOD & ask Him to help you not to be anxious about a thing (and do it as many times as needed —some habits take longer to break than others).
Prior to that slow down: I kept hearing + being preached to about slowing down. I recently made some life changes & was running head first into some things. The quote “life isn’t a sprint, but a marathon” comes to mind. The warning that came with this slow down was that if I didn’t pace myself I would run myself restless or into a dangerous situation. It literally was about life for me. Between exploring, academic, professional and life goals, I was in danger of a few things.
Well you all, thank you for tuning in & please share this with someone.